Here’s a concept.
Consider the animal kingdom. Two animals mate and in some cases they work together to insure that their offspring survive. With a wide brush I bet the supporting evidence is that most reproduction does not have dual support of the father and the mother. Such as the trillions of fish eggs hatched throughout the world.
Take it one step further and in some groups such as elephants there is some supporting mechanism for group protection. Small groups protect offspring as a unit. Ant and bee colonies work in a similar way, but use a very different model, where there is typically one queen so that the “guardians” are not involved in procreation.
That’s about it.
Now let’s make the transition to humans. Father and mother have a child and to a large degree it’s “THE TEAM” against the world to raise the child. In some cultures and in some families, there’s an expanded unit that protects the offspring, however, given the social changes humans have gone through, the protection is often not physically present such as in the days of tribal living.
Again, it’s you and your mate against the world.
Shifting to the business arena, the same philosophies hold true. If you’re in a family unit and push comes to shove, family may or may not stand, but most employees are not part of the immediate family network.
Concept #1: Family members in business will tend to protect family members. (Even if they beat them up later when no one is looking.)
This means that circle number one of immediate family traditionally will surpass extended family.
The same holds true about company vs. company. You might defend your own company and its employees before you’d defend another company. Yet there are occasions this might change.
Those in cities may protect those in their own cities. Those in states/providences may protect members of their states/providences. Those in countries may protect those in their own country. Alliance groups may protect those in alliance groups. Those in one religion protect those that believe the same way….etc
For example, soccer fans around the world protect those that support their teams. Gangs protect gang members first.
Concept #2: Commonality creates a bond. The stronger the belief or emotion towards the commonality, the stronger the bond.
When all is said and done, the real need here is to protect the individual’s family unit or if there’s no unit, one’s self. Look at the instinctual tradition of how a mother or father might sacrifice themselves for their children. Even to the point of death.
Concept #3: There is a hierarchy of protectionism that’s driven from the individual on up.
Think in terms of rings around an individual where each ring out brings a lesser but important bond or need to protect.
From this information one can extrapolate that partnerships, business or non-business, are only as good as the individuals feel there is a value in it for themselves. The bond. Does it in some way protect my own self interests or the self interests of those that one feels are important.
In the end, your business is what you’d try to protect first from another business. Your primary thought would be to protect all the incomes of those whom you work with. And how many times have you seen people gouge their way to safety when the possibility of saving all the jobs are nil; you’re going to protect your income if the income is necessary for survival.
Ask yourself, if a good friend and co-worker wanted a promotion for $50K (a significant number) above your current salary, and you were offered the job, given that you wanted it also, would you give your friend the job? Your answer has to be truthful.
It’s important to realize that when one suggests that they’ve got partners in a company or an organization, they might have them only to a certain degree. I’ve worked with many a company where the employees say they are all for the company and love the employees UNTIL they leave. Their last remarks are, “We’ll keep in touch.” Some may visit a few times, but once the rubber hits the road, the TYPICAL employee’s connection is lost with the company.
There are exceptions. In fairness to the exceptions, I agree that a few people might remain in contact.
Looking from a slightly different perspective, would your cohort turn down a job promotion with significant pay and benefits so that you’re happy? You most likely would do it for your children or significant other.
Try another little test…answer these questions. In this example, I’d like you to consider that the allies must be people that would put your needs equal to or above theirs… OR … that they would do almost anything to help you.
Who are your top 3 family allies?
Who are your top 3 business associates?
Who are your top 3 business allies?
Find this challenging? If your mother is alive, is she on the list? Many of those who’ve answered these questions often find that mom is missing. In my case, at 43, if I were to call my mom and needed her immediately, she would drop anything.
The other two questions are tough. Business associates who are watching out for your best interests? Bet this was a challenge, unless you’ve paid them to be your friend.
Business allies are another challenge. If you’d stop paying them, would they come to your rescue without asking for a percentage? Doubt it. Though it does infrequently happen.
Consider this the next time you’re talking partners; who’s really in it for whom? It’s not wrong to have circles of influence and to feel an attraction to a particular circle of influence.
Understanding human dynamics helps to develop the right partnerships along with protecting your own butt. It’s just information that helps.